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You Hurt My Feelings

You Hurt My Feelings

Drama · Comedy · Romance · 2023

A novelist's longstanding marriage is suddenly upended when she overhears her husband giving his honest reaction to her latest book.

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You Hurt My Feelings

2023 Drama · Comedy · Romance 1h 33m

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TMDB

6.3 / 10

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A novelist's longstanding marriage is suddenly upended when she overhears her husband giving his honest reaction to her latest book.

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Names above the title

The people responsible.

Directed by

Nicole Holofcener

Written by

Nicole Holofcener

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

Beth

Tobias Menzies

Tobias Menzies

Don

Michaela Watkins

Michaela Watkins

Sarah

Arian Moayed

Arian Moayed

Mark

Owen Teague

Owen Teague

Eliot

Amber Tamblyn

Amber Tamblyn

Carolyn

David Cross

David Cross

Jonathan

Court is in session

Put You Hurt My Feelings on trial.

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The defence The Sentimental Softie

“Sincerity is not manipulation.”

The film risks embarrassment to make emotion communal, and that openness is harder than fashionable detachment.

The prosecution The Cool Ironist

“The strings are showing.”

Every cue tells you exactly what to feel and when, leaving sentiment to do the work character should have done.